How to stop yourself from crying: Stop thinking of yourself as a loser
Bloomberg — The story of how a man who’s been known to cry on the job for more than 20 years began to lose it.
When Steve Sondermann retired in 2000, he said he had no one to talk to about what was wrong.
So he sat on his couch and cried for almost 20 minutes.
“I was like, ‘Well, I’m just a guy, I can’t control this,'” he said.
Sondermans wife, Nancy, said she was horrified when he told her he was quitting.
“I said, ‘I don’t understand.
You don’t have to leave this job, Steve, because you are a guy and you have this ability to do this.
You’re not like a woman who’s trying to hide it, or like a person who’s not willing to be accountable to anyone,'” she said.
“He said, well, I know that’s not true.”
Sondermens emotional problems began to take on a life of their own.
He started experiencing nightmares and nightmares of being shot at, which led him to go to the hospital for a check-up.
He said he suffered nightmares for years after that.
But the worst happened when he was a senior manager for the Federal Reserve Bank of New York.
In 2009, he was laid off, and for the first time in his life he cried.
Sondinger told his wife Nancy that he needed to get out.
“Then I started crying like a baby.
I just went out of control.
I couldn’t take it anymore,” he said, sobbing.
He got his heart transplant in 2010 and was in a nursing home for two years, but he finally left the hospital and moved back to New York, where he started his own business and worked at the Wall Street Journal.
But the work was not the end of his emotional troubles.
In 2013, he started having nightmares and was diagnosed with a type of depression.
His wife Nancy said he was diagnosed in 2010 but was not diagnosed until 2014.
She said he told them he had PTSD and anxiety.
“He said he thought he was going to be dead in four years, so it was pretty frightening,” Nancy Sonder said.
“But it was the right thing to do,” she said, and she said he felt better.
“It gave him the confidence he needed.”
The couple tried to get counseling for him, but it did not work.
And in January, Sondercons job at the Federal Open Market Committee was terminated.
In an interview with CNN, Nancy Sondingermans husband said he’s now “disgusted” with the job that the Fed has given him.
“We’re the biggest advocates for this, and the Fed gives us a lot of money and a lot more power and a much bigger voice and a huge platform,” he told CNN.
“But now it’s gone.”
The family said they have been trying to get the Fed to help them, but no response has been forthcoming.
The family and the Sonderems have since hired a lawyer, and they hope to take the case to the New York State Attorney General’s office to get a lawsuit filed.
“The Fed has lost a good guy,” Nancy said.
In October, a judge ruled that Sondertermans disability and pension benefits cannot be cut, but his unemployment benefits can be extended to him until the end and his medical benefits will be paid.
The case is currently pending in Manhattan federal court.